How is alimony managed? Several states have specific legislation on how maintenance or spousal assistance is managed, so any agreement must take into account the state in which spousal assistance could be granted. In some cases, spouses cannot waive their rights to assisted spouses. It should also be noted that assistance to spouses is generally granted when one spouse earns significantly less than the other or when one spouse gives up his or her own monetary policy activities to improve the budget. An example could be a spouse who agrees to stay at home to raise children or care for a sick relative during the marriage. Assistance to spouses would be considered to help this party until she can build her income comfortably herself.